I was off social media for a few days and when I logged back in … all I see is …
So. Many. Judgmental. Posts. EVERYWHERE.
I am not sure why it surprised me. Nevertheless, I took this as an opportunity to re-check my judgmental thoughts on others because I believe this world needs more love, more understanding AND less judging — starting with one heart at a time. ❤
I started by reading there are opinions and GOOD judgments then there is judgmental. See the below definitions AND synonyms — I am struggling with judgmental not judicious.
Disclaimer and Confession:
I used to be a total judger. In college, my best friend and I would sit in the quad/court yard to judge people walking by as a “fun” past time. I got a high off of it then. I felt like I was the best person because everyone else around me was being perceived as shit. Looking back–I was a coward and a bully for hurting people without their knowledge.
As a part of self growth I have tried to re-route my thoughts of a judgment to be a prayer or nice thought for the person. **You can try this too.**
The positive thoughts eventually became natural and have sent positive love back.
During my self check, I defined judgment as pointing out someone’s failures, mistakes or appearances. Judging is using someone’s weakness or criticizing who they are as a person. As I judge someone, I am creating a lesser form of them so that I can feel better about my own pitiful state.
I asked myself these questions and I beg you to ask yourself too …
— How often do I judge? — Why do I judge? — Did I gain anything through a judgment? — Do I feel better after judging? — Do I care about others? — Do I want to be judged? —
I tell myself, ‘There is no valid excuse for either the judger or the judgee’ … I try to accept and understand the place of ALL people.
I do not think humans are naturally hurtful to each other. I think we are taught that from others.
AWESOME THING IS — I know we also have the chance to teach love and understanding. I am hoping, when more people live by and through love, there is no reason to feel lonely or rejected, which is when we tend to lash out at others.
I also have to say…The natural love and understanding took me sometime. I never gave up on myself. And I was gentle with myself. If I had a grumpy judgy day, I did not scrap the whole idea. I made a promise to myself to be better the next day. The change will not happen over night.
I feel and experience so much more love. I pray we are all able to feel this for ourselves and for others.
I sincerely love you all and hope you know I am sending prayers out to those who need them. Even if you don’t need them–I’m sending them.
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Thanks for reading
“If you judge people, you have no time to love them.” Blessed Mother Teresa
For those of you who enjoy the Bible and its teachings, these are passages on judgment I read to help.
Feel free to share more with me! I am new and learning to develop a deeper faith! 🙂 ❤
Gospel, Luke 13:10-17
Gospel, Matthew 7:1-5