Judgment · Life · love · self growth · thoughts

Judgmental Thoughts. Re-checking my own.

 

I was off social media for a few days and when I logged back in … all I see is … 

So. Many. Judgmental. Posts. EVERYWHERE. 

I am not sure why it surprised me. Nevertheless, I took this as an opportunity to re-check my judgmental thoughts on others because I believe this world needs more love, more understanding AND less judging — starting with one heart at a time. ❤

I started by reading there are opinions and GOOD judgments then there is judgmental. See the below definitions AND synonyms — I am struggling with judgmental not judicious.

JudgmentalJuditious


 

 

Disclaimer and Confession:

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I used to be a total judger. In college, my best friend and I would sit in the quad/court yard to judge people walking by as a “fun” past time. I got a high off of it then. I felt like I was the best person because everyone else around me was being perceived as shit. Looking back–I was a coward and a bully for hurting people without their knowledge.

As a part of self growth I have tried to re-route my thoughts of a judgment to be a prayer or nice thought for the person. **You can try this too.**

The positive thoughts eventually became natural and have sent positive love back.


During my self check, I defined judgment as pointing out someone’s failures, mistakes or appearances. Judging is using someone’s weakness or criticizing who they are as a person. As I judge someone, I am creating a lesser form of them so that I can feel better about my own pitiful state.

I asked myself these questions and I beg you to ask yourself too …

— How often do I judge? — Why do I judge? — Did I gain anything through a judgment? — Do I feel better after judging? — Do I care about others? — Do I want to be judged? —

I tell myself, ‘There is no valid excuse for either the judger or the judgee’ … I try to accept and understand the place of ALL people. 

I do not think humans are naturally hurtful to each other. I think we are taught that from others.

AWESOME THING IS — I know we also have the chance to teach love and understanding. I am hoping, when more people live by and through love, there is no reason to feel lonely or rejected,  which is when we tend to lash out at others.


I also have to say…The natural love and understanding took me sometime. I never gave up on myself. And I was gentle with myself. If I had a grumpy judgy day,  I did not scrap the whole idea. I made a promise to myself to be better the next day. The change will not happen over night.

I feel and experience so much more love. I pray we are all able to feel this for ourselves and for others. 

I sincerely love you all and hope you know I am sending prayers out to those who need them. Even if you don’t need them–I’m sending them. 

Spread the love! 

Thanks for reading

Vivien

“If you judge people, you have no time to love them.” Blessed Mother Teresa

 

For those of you who enjoy the Bible and its teachings, these are passages on judgment I read to help.

Source: http://www.catholic.org
Feel free to share more with me! I am new and learning to develop a deeper faith! 🙂 ❤

Gospel, Luke 13:10-17

10 One Sabbath day he was teaching in one of the synagogues,

11 and there before him was a woman who for eighteen years had been possessed by a spirit that crippled her; she was bent double and quite unable to stand upright.

12 When Jesus saw her he called her over and said, ‘Woman, you are freed from your disability,’

13 and he laid his hands on her. And at once she straightened up, and she glorified God.

14 But the president of the synagogue was indignant because Jesus had healed on the Sabbath, and he addressed all those present saying, ‘There are six days when work is to be done. Come and be healed on one of those days and not on the Sabbath.’

15 But the Lord answered him and said, ‘Hypocrites! Is there one of you who does not untie his ox or his donkey from the manger on the Sabbath and take it out for watering?

16 And this woman, a daughter of Abraham whom Satan has held bound these eighteen years — was it not right to untie this bond on the Sabbath day?’

17 When he said this, all his adversaries were covered with confusion, and all the people were overjoyed at all the wonders he worked.

Gospel, Matthew 7:1-5

1 ‘Do not judge, and you will not be judged;

2 because the judgements you give are the judgements you will get, and the standard you use will be the standard used for you.

3 Why do you observe the splinter in your brother’s eye and never notice the great log in your own?

4 And how dare you say to your brother, “Let me take that splinter out of your eye,” when, look, there is a great log in your own?

5 Hypocrite! Take the log out of your own eye first, and then you will see clearly enough to take the splinter out of your brother’s eye.

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