For the past 6 months….my fiance and I have saved every penny so we would be able to pay for our wedding without using a loan. Many of my friends told me horror stories about the cost of weddings and the debt for 5 years after the wedding. My fiance and I did NOT want to have a financial burden after our happy day!
We made a budget and started planning, to find out it would be tight but doable. We promised not to spend on anything that was unnecessary for survival. We bought groceries to eat healthy and lean (with no fun foods). Paid our bills. And got gas when needed. This meant that we would no longer have date nights. I called it our ‘saving-everything-period-of-time’. We tried to keep in mind that this was just a season and past it would be a wonderful life together.
Here are the three things that we have learned!
1. Our relationship and where it will stand in the future
To do our best with missing date nights, we made yummy dinners together and put on a pot of coffee for dessert. Then, we sat on the couch to play Borderlands 2! Or sometimes, we would go to the grocery, as a “date” and splurge $10 for Starbucks afterwards. Starbucks was for when it got really un-romantic. Yes, no dates for 6 months was un-romantic. [[We do not have kids yet, so the couch date nights worked…thankfully! I can see why any couple NEEDS to go out on date nights every once in a while to re-spark that flame!]]
It is only days now before we say, “I Do“, and looking back at this period in our relationship, I can see this was absolutely a great building block/learning experience. We both know, through any upcoming financially rough times–because we lived like we had no money–we will be just fine. We also learned, if or when we have a period of time with less than romantic nights in our marriage, we will be okay because we are best friends and like/appreciate/respect each other past our physical beings.
The ‘saving-everything-period-of-time’ has also taught us to appreciate the romantic moments THAT MUCH MORE! Each one is a gift and should be cherished. We will go on our Honeymoon this coming Sunday, and you wonder…will we be “romantic”? Oh, you bet we will! And LOVE every second of it!!
2. The value of money!
We have learned the level of necessity of things money can buy.
I grew up buying everything for myself since the age of 15. Clothes. Car insurance. Phone bill. Food. My dad was strict. And it worked out well because I have learned how to budget. But, I had never lived where I cannot buy as I want.
For the past 6 months, I looked a clothes or makeup or shoes or manicures/pedicures and thought, “Why would I waste $50.00 on a new thing when I can save that money. I don’t even wear/use that more than once or twice.”
I haven’t gotten my nails or eye brows done in 6 months. Which, for people who knew me before this crazy saving period would say, “WHHHhhhhAAaAAAT??” I learned that I am fully capable to do by own brows and manicures… It is nice to have someone do them for me. Paying for services was a luxury when we were saving. I also learned to cut my fiance’s hair…I could never cut my own hair…it is growing nice and long right now. Which works perfect for the wedding! My fiance’s weakness is buying video games. So to get games without spending our money, we would trade in old games, play through the new games and trade them back in for more game credits.
I have learned that money is about the equivalent to acorns; I need to stash up for the winter. 😀
3. Living a more simple life makes you happy
I would not trade in my happiness for all of the manicures in the world. I have learned that the important things in life are NOT what money buys me.
Shopping and getting my nails or brows done made me so self centered… It was about me me me, all the time. I think back to it and I am sick to my stomach. Now, I have more time to give to my friends and family. I had more time to deepen my faith with God. I had more time to work out to gain health. I was able to start reading more! I had time to to work on, myself. I had time to learn HOW TO CHOOSE LOVE instead of hate. I was able to appreciate even the smallest things. Imagine Starbucks being a splurge! $10 was a splurge. How many times have you spent $10 and not thought twice about it?
Saving is a wonderful thing! It has taught me so much that I would have never imagined. It has fit in perfectly with my health journey too. In my health journey..first, I cut out unhealthy foods. Next, I cut out harmful chemicals. Now, I am rid of the negative mental state, always worrying about me and being hateful. I am hoping to continue living the simple life. After the honeymoon…We have to treat ourselves every now an again! 😉
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Some pictures of me and my AWESOME Fiance! Even one of a splurge Starbucks date!! 😀